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Sex and Dating
Dating in college can be a lot of fun, especially for first years
who are constantly meeting new people (which can equal many
opportunities to hook up!). But don’t forget that relationships are
complicated. First-year students often become serial daters,
skipping from partner to partner as a way of testing the dating
waters. Here are a few tips to get you started and keep you out of
dating hell:
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If you’re
going to date someone in your dorm, do so with extreme caution
and take things slowly. Gossip spreads fast in a dorm.
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Dating
someone you meet in a class is okay as long as you start the
relationship after midterms. If it turns ugly fast, you’ve only
got a few weeks of seeing the person before class is over. If
it’s great, then you won’t be distracted in class by your
sweetheart for long.
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Don’t rush
things. Go out on a few dates before you commit to anyone.
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If you’re
going to be a player, you’re going to land a player, as well as
a bad reputation.
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“No strings
attached” relationships do not exist in college.
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Having sex
does not guarantee falling in love.
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Lying is
ugly; being yourself is much more attractive than pretending to
be someone you’re not.
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If you really
want to get to know someone, leave alcohol out of the dating
experience. Yes, alcohol can help to break the ice, but it will
also impair your judgment.
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Lust is
physical attraction. Love requires a more meaningful connection
than just sex. It’s easy to get these two emotions confused.
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If you find
yourself falling in love, don’t be afraid to tell the other
person: chances are he/she feels the same way about you.
The Sweetheart Back Home
Many first years are bummed about having to part with their high
school sweethearts. It’s difficult to end a relationship, but there
are some good reasons to start off your college career single.
Maintaining a long-distance relationship is an added pressure to
your already pressure-filled life. Plus, most of these relationships
don’t last the semester; those that do usually come to a grinding
halt by summer. Whatever the case, a long-distance breakup can be
pretty painful—certainly more painful than being realistic with your
sweetie from the start. Breaking up when you go to college doesn’t
mean you won’t ever be together. It also doesn’t mean that you have
to rush into seeing someone else. It just means that you want to
make the transition into college a little easier.
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SparkNotes: Sex and Dating
For more information, please contact:
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Becky Doebler |
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Coordinator of Student
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Office: (770)720-9238
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Fax: (770)720-9105 |
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rmd@reinhardt.edu
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Last updated July 16, 2007.
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